I admit, it has been hard to stay positive lately. I don't know if it's been the gloomy weather here on the East Coast, or life circumstances, or what, but it has been tough over the past couple of months. I just started a new job- which is great believe me, but when you are new you are constantly feeling overwhelmed (and wrong- you are almost always wrong 99.9% of the time because you are new and you don't know better yet!) So I found this article that gives some helpful tips on how to stay positive in negative (or even just neutral) situations. Copy and paste the above link into your browser to check out the full article- but in the nutshell here are the tips:
1) Have a positive support group: basically get yourself some positive friends! If you're friends are a little on the negative side, it might be best to avoid them until you've gotten through your rough patch. Positivity breeds positivity, and if you are hanging around with people who are down to be negative right along with you, it's going to be even harder for you to counteract that and be positive. So seek out friends and support that tend to look at the glass half full.
2) Practice gratitude: Start a journal, do the 3 blessings exercise before bed every night, in one way or another, focus on what you are happy and thankful about in your life.
3) Retrain your mind: What you can do that? Yes. I wrote a blog a few months ago about your inner critic, which is that voice inside your head that tells you all the things you are doing wrong and you beat yourself up with. Retrain your brain so when that voice comes up, you answer it with a positive thought, and continue the pattern of thinking positive thoughts instead of negative. This is not an easy thing to do, but eventually you can get to the point where you become your own cheerleader!
4) Exercise your body and mind: Get those endorphins going- they make you feel naturally better! But do it in a way you enjoy - running, biking, swimming, a class at the gym, a long walk, yoga, etc. In addition, meditation, learning, brain games, reading- these are ways to exercise your mind.
5) Accept and find solutions: I say this all the time "the only thing constant in life is change". I am so bad with change, I hate change, but you know what - change gets you out of your comfort zone and if you take advantage of the opportunities change brings - you often wind up in a better place. For example - your lease is up on your rental apartment and the landlord spikes the rent. It's a bummer right? You can either accept the situation, or take the opportunity to look for another, better, place to live. I was recently layed off from my job- and that is the worst. If I had the chance, I probably would have worked there for many years and stayed comfortable- not learning anything new just doing what I do. However, being layed off forced me to look for another opportunity. I just started with a new job where I will be learning a ton, gaining many more experiences and skills to put on my resume, and making more money to boot! So when life presents you with it's newest and greatest challenges, make sure you look at them as opportunities to get you to where you want to be.